Friday, September 26, 2008

I am supposed to be elsewhere right now...

at a fundraiser in the area but the husband hates parties and I really don't feel like going alone, *again* to something. The husband is not very social. The husband has lived in this town for almost 20 years and everyone he knows he knows through me. The wife ( that would be me) is sick and tired of seeking out the friends and maintaining the social life by herself. The wife ( again, me) is tired of having him come along to please me and then letting me know , in subtle and not so subtle ways, that he doesn't want to be there.
     So I don't drag him places anymore and lately, more and more, I don't go either. Because it is just so tiring doing all the driving and doing all the shmoozing.
    I used to be a very social person who was generally surrounded by a family of friends . Lately I have let it all go to hell because I am tired of doing all the work of maintaining it.  I still have my buds, but he's not part of it. And tonight I am supposed to be at a party. And tonight I am sitting here in this too cold house dreading another winter.

 Thank you for listening..er...reading. 

5 comments:

only a movie said...

Ooooh. I hated attending functions by myself. I still hate it. I'm not a function-goer in the first place, and neither is the blonde alien. But he is good about attending things. Better than that other guy.

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

I just like doing things with my girlfriends. Or family. Nothing big or too schmoozy.

pixiegenne said...

i hear you. i've got one of those, too.

Cristin said...

I'm not a goer of the social function either... nor is my husband.... hermits we be...

crone51 said...

we were all set to go but I realized that I was gonna be dragging him somewhere he didn't really want to go and that he would just be doing it for me and then he would be miserable and want to leave quickly and it just wasn't worth it. So we stayed home. It was ok, though... and quieter. So I shouldn't rant so much. But I tried to complain to the dogs about it and they didn't seem all that interested.